---
name: screen-time-management
description: |
  Creates family media plans with age-based screen time guidelines, content quality criteria, and alternative activity lists. Produces structured media agreements with daily limits, content evaluation frameworks, and transition strategies for reducing screen time.
  Use when the user asks about managing children's screen time, setting media limits, evaluating content quality, or creating a family media plan.
  Do NOT use for diagnosing screen addiction, treating technology dependency, or assessing a child's relationship with screens clinically.
license: Apache-2.0
metadata:
  author: foundry-skills
  version: "1.0.0"
  tags: "parenting planning guide"
  category: "family-relationships"
  subcategory: "parenting"
  depends: ""
  disclaimer: "none"
  difficulty: "beginner"
---
# Screen Time Management

## When to Use

**Use this skill when:**
- A parent asks how many hours of screen time are appropriate for a child of a specific age, especially if they cite confusion about conflicting advice they've heard
- A family wants to create a written media agreement that all household members -- including children old enough to participate -- can sign and refer to
- A parent describes ongoing conflict at screen-time transitions: meltdowns when turning off devices, sneaking screens, negotiating endlessly, or lying about usage
- A parent wants guidance on evaluating whether a specific type of content (educational apps, YouTube kids' channels, video games with friends) is serving or harming their child
- A parent is concerned that screens are displacing sleep, physical activity, homework, outdoor play, or family connection time
- A parent wants to design an alternative-activities toolkit for high-temptation moments: long car trips, sick days, summer, after-school hours, restaurant waits
- A user is preparing a screen time plan for a new device (tablet, phone, gaming console) before giving it to a child
- A parent returning from a vacation or period of loosened rules wants to reestablish screen time structure
- A family is dealing with sibling inequity -- different ages need different limits and the younger child is protesting

**Do NOT use when:**
- The parent describes behaviors indicating possible problematic technology use: the child becomes physically aggressive when devices are removed, lies compulsively about usage, abandons all non-screen activities, shows withdrawal symptoms (sleep disruption, appetite changes, mood dysregulation beyond typical transition resistance) -- refer to a pediatrician or child psychologist
- The user is asking about managing their own adult screen time for productivity -- use a productivity or habits skill
- The user needs clinical assessment of whether a child has a screen dependency disorder -- this skill does not diagnose
- The user wants step-by-step parental control setup on a specific operating system or device -- that is technical setup guidance, not a family media plan
- The question is about school or classroom screen time policy -- that requires institutional policy-making, not a family agreement
- The user's concern is primarily about cyberbullying, online predator safety, or social media age-appropriateness for teens -- those require dedicated online safety skills with different frameworks

---

## Process

### Step 1: Gather the Specific Family Profile

Before offering any recommendations, collect enough information to avoid generic advice. Ask about or identify:

- **Each child's exact age** -- guidelines shift meaningfully at 18 months, 2, 5, 6, 10, and 13. "Young child" is not enough to calibrate.
- **Current daily screen time by type** -- separate passive viewing (streaming, YouTube), interactive educational (reading apps, math games), social screen time (video calls, co-op gaming), and background TV. These are not equivalent.
- **Device types and environments** -- TV in the living room behaves differently from a tablet in a bedroom. The physical context shapes both usage patterns and intervention strategies.
- **The presenting problem** -- transition meltdowns, quantity concerns, content quality concerns, displacement of other activities, or all of the above. The plan structure changes based on which problem is primary.
- **Family constraints** -- does one parent work from home and rely on screen time as a childcare window? Is homework device-based? Is the child neurodivergent in ways that affect sensory regulation (screens are calming for some sensory-seeking children and the plan must account for this without judgment)?
- **What has already been tried** -- do not recommend cold-turkey removal if the parent has already done that and it created three days of chaos. Build on what they know about their child's response.

### Step 2: Apply Age-Calibrated Screen Time Frameworks

Use the following developmental guidelines as the baseline, then adjust for family context:

- **Under 18 months:** Avoid screen media entirely except video calls with known people (grandparents, deployed parent, etc.). The developing brain at this stage requires real-world sensory input, face-to-face interaction, and object permanence practice. Screens do not substitute for these. The one exception: a caregiver who co-views and narrates what is on screen can begin building some media literacy, but this is caregiver-intensive.

- **18-24 months:** Introduction is possible if and only if it is co-viewed with a caregiver who comments, asks questions, and connects the content to real objects ("that's a dog -- like Max next door!"). Content must be very slow-paced (think: original Mister Rogers pacing, not most modern children's programming). Total exposure: under 30 minutes daily. Solo screen time at this age produces essentially zero learning transfer.

- **2-5 years:** Up to 1 hour per day of high-quality, intentionally chosen content. This age range benefits most dramatically from the quality distinction -- interactive apps where the child makes choices and receives feedback outperform passive video by a wide margin for cognitive development. Co-viewing remains valuable. Avoid content with rapid scene changes (under 3-second cuts), hyperstimulating sound design, or characters who model aggression or manipulation to get what they want.

- **6-9 years:** Recreational screen time of 1-1.5 hours on school days and up to 2 hours on weekends. At this age, the primary risk is displacement: screens crowding out outdoor play, reading, creative play, and family connection. The daily schedule structure matters more than the minute count. A child who reads for 45 minutes, plays outside for an hour, and then watches a show is in a different developmental position than one who watches screens immediately after school and has the remaining activities squeezed into leftover time.

- **10-12 years:** This is a critical transition period. Children this age are entering pre-adolescence, their peer relationships are intensifying, and social media exposure often begins (even if officially age-restricted). Recreational limits of 1.5-2 hours remain reasonable, but the parent should begin shifting toward a conversation-based model rather than pure rule-imposition. Explain the reasoning. Ask the child to reflect on how they feel after different screen sessions. Start building the metacognitive habits that will sustain media health through adolescence.

- **13-17 years:** Rigid minute-based limits become counterproductive for teens. A teenager who is video calling a friend about homework, listening to music while doing chores, and then watching an hour of a show has had significant screen time in technical minutes but the usage is developmentally appropriate. The framework shifts to: sleep protection (screens off 60-90 minutes before bed, devices charged outside the bedroom), balance verification (is the teen maintaining in-person friendships, physical activity, and school performance?), and collaborative agreement rather than surveillance-and-enforcement. The research supports that teens who experience parental monitoring as trust-based -- rather than punitive -- have better outcomes than those whose parents either have no rules or impose strict technical controls without explanation.

### Step 3: Build the Structural Elements of the Family Media Plan

The plan has six structural components. Each must be explicitly designed -- defaults invite negotiation and exception creep:

**Daily Time Limits:**
Set limits by child, by day type (school day vs. weekend vs. school holiday), and be explicit about what counts. A 1-hour limit that is vague about whether educational apps, video calls, and background TV count will be contested daily.

**Content Quality Criteria:**
Use the PACE framework for evaluating children's content:
- **P -- Pacing:** Content with slower pacing (scenes lasting 10+ seconds, deliberate transitions, wait time for the child to respond) produces better comprehension and lower arousal than rapid-cut content. Below age 5, avoid anything with average shot lengths under 5 seconds.
- **A -- Active Engagement:** The child should be doing something -- choosing, predicting, answering, moving, creating -- rather than purely receiving. Look for content that generates questions the child asks aloud, or that the child re-enacts in play afterward.
- **C -- Commercialization and Manipulation:** Assess whether content embeds toy advertising, encourages in-app purchasing, or uses persuasive dark patterns (autoplay, variable reward loops in games, like counts). These features are specifically designed to extend session duration and generate revenue at the child's expense.
- **E -- Educational Transfer:** Would the child be able to teach back something from this content? Is there a concept, vocabulary word, skill, or perspective that transfers to the real world? This is the clearest signal of quality.

**Screen-Free Zones and Times:**
Minimum non-negotiable zones: all meal spaces, all sleep spaces, 60 minutes before the child's bedtime (90 minutes is better for children with sleep-onset difficulties). The neurological basis for the bedtime rule is specific: screens emit short-wavelength blue light that suppresses melatonin by up to 50% for several hours. Beyond the light, the emotional stimulation of interactive content activates the nervous system in ways that directly conflict with the downregulation required for sleep onset. This rule has the strongest evidence base of any screen time recommendation and should be framed as biology, not punishment.

Additional recommended zones: the first 30 minutes after school (neurological transition time; children need decompression without a stimulating screen), during homework (even background TV degrades cognitive performance on reading and math tasks by 10-25% in studies of school-age children), and during car trips under 20 minutes (car rides offer irreplaceable conversation and observation time).

**Transition Rules:**
The meltdown problem is almost never about the child being "addicted" -- it is almost always about the abruptness of the transition and the absence of a compelling alternative. The nervous system, especially in children under age 8, requires transition support. Design the transition with three elements: a warning signal (5 minutes ahead, consistent every time), a closing ritual (turn it off together, not just a command), and an already-staged alternative activity. "We are going to stop in 5 minutes and then set up the train track" lands completely differently than "okay, time's up, go play."

**What Counts and What Does Not:**
This table must be explicit or the plan will collapse in daily application. Video calls do not count. Homework on a device does not count but needs its own boundaries (no entertainment tabs open, specific end time). Interactive creative tools (stop-motion animation apps, creative coding) occupy a gray zone and should be treated as 50% screen time for limit purposes. Audiobooks and podcasts do not count. Background television that nobody is watching should be turned off as a default, but if it is playing while the family does other things, count it as 25% of face-up screen time.

**Earned Screen Time (Optional but Effective for 5-12 Year Olds):**
Some families benefit from a structured "earn it" model for weekend or holiday usage. The child completes physical activity (30+ minutes of active play), some reading or creative activity, and a household contribution before screen time begins. This is not punishment -- frame it as sequencing. The evidence base here comes from behavioral activation principles: the child is more likely to enjoy and voluntarily choose non-screen activities if they occur before screens rather than after, because screens become a transition destination rather than the only appealing option.

### Step 4: Design the Transition Plan for Families Reducing Current Usage

If current screen time significantly exceeds the age-appropriate target, a gradual reduction plan is essential:

- **Reduction rate:** 15-30 minutes per week for children under 8; up to 45 minutes per week for older children. Faster reductions are possible but produce more behavioral resistance and plan abandonment.
- **Replace, don't just subtract:** Every minute removed from screen time must be replaced with a specifically named alternative that is staged and ready. "Go play" is not a plan. "The art supplies are already out on the kitchen table" is a plan.
- **Expect a 7-14 day adjustment window.** The first week of a new screen time limit is typically the hardest. If the parent has seen 3 days of conflict and concludes "this isn't working," they are withdrawing at the lowest point. The behavioral curve for schedule changes in children follows a predictable pattern: peak resistance in days 3-7, decrease through day 10-14, relative normalization by week 3.
- **Hold the limit but not the emotion.** The child is allowed to be upset. "I know you want to keep watching. Screen time is done." Validate the feeling, hold the boundary, do not negotiate the limit during a dysregulated moment.
- **Weekly review:** Build a check-in into the plan at 2 weeks and 4 weeks. Ask: Is this sustainable? Are the alternatives working? Does any element need adjustment? Adjust the plan explicitly rather than letting exceptions quietly accumulate.

### Step 5: Create the Alternative Activity Toolkit

Screen time is highest when the child is bored and no alternative is available. The toolkit must cover the specific high-temptation scenarios for that family:

- **After school:** This is the most common high-screen window. Options that work: a physical snack + outdoor free play, involvement in dinner preparation (even ages 4-5 can wash vegetables, stir batter), audiobook or podcast, or a simple independent creative activity already staged on the table.
- **Parent work time / childcare window:** This is the highest-legitimacy screen use scenario and should be designed, not defaulted to. Build a "parallel work" activity box -- materials the child only accesses during parent work time. Novelty matters: rotate the contents weekly to maintain interest.
- **Car rides:** Under 20 minutes: conversation, car games (I Spy, 20 Questions, alphabet games), audiobooks. Over 45 minutes: screen time is a reasonable tool. Between 20-45 minutes: audiobooks, podcasts, family playlist. Long road trips (4+ hours): plan one screen-free stretch per hour, rotate activities, and build in physical stops.
- **Restaurant waits:** Paper activities (fold-out menus to draw on, a small notebook), a simple observation game ("count everything on this table that is silver"), simple card games (a deck of cards handles 40+ games and fits in any bag).
- **Sick days:** Sick days are a legitimate exception category. A child with a fever who is resting and watching television is using screen time appropriately. Build "sick day rules" into the plan so the parent does not feel they have failed the plan when a child spends a fever day watching movies.

### Step 6: Handle the Teen Case Separately

If the family includes a teenager, the approach fundamentally differs. Do not build a teen's plan for the parent to impose. Instead:

- Guide the parent through a collaborative conversation framework: begin by asking the teen what they think healthy media balance looks like, where they feel screens are helping versus not, and what they would be willing to try.
- The non-negotiable items for teens are: no devices in the bedroom overnight (charged in a common area), and a 60-90 minute screens-off window before sleep. Frame both as sleep-protection rules with physiological rationale, not surveillance.
- For social media specifically: ask about the 1:1 ratio -- for every hour of content consumption, is the teen also producing something (making content, creative writing, physical activity, social connection in person)? This is not a rule but a reflective check-in.
- Set a 30-day review point. Teens respond better to trial agreements than permanent rules.

### Step 7: Deliver and Format the Plan

Produce a clean, printable family media plan document (see Output Format). Offer to explain the rationale for any element. Invite the parent to modify anything that does not fit their family context -- a plan the parent believes in and can explain is ten times more sustainable than a perfect plan they cannot defend under pressure from a six-year-old.

---

## Output Format

```
## Family Media Plan
### [Family Name or Household] | Created: [Date]
---

## Part 1: Daily Screen Time Limits

| Child | Age | School Days | Weekends/Holidays | Special Exceptions |
|-------|-----|-------------|-------------------|-------------------|
| [Name] | [Age] | [X min/hr] | [X min/hr] | [Travel, sick days, etc.] |
| [Name] | [Age] | [X min/hr] | [X min/hr] | [Travel, sick days, etc.] |

**Review date:** [4 weeks from creation]

---

## Part 2: What Counts as Screen Time

| Counts Toward Daily Limit | Does NOT Count | Partial Credit (50%) |
|---------------------------|----------------|---------------------|
| Streaming video (any platform) | Video calls with family/friends | Interactive creative apps |
| Passive YouTube viewing | Device-based homework | Educational interactive apps |
| Video games (solo) | Audiobooks or podcasts | Co-op gaming with friends |
| Tablet games (entertainment) | Music listening | Documentary viewing for school |
| Background TV (watching) | - | - |

---

## Part 3: Screen-Free Zones and Times

**Every day, no exceptions:**
- [ ] All meals -- devices off the table, TV off
- [ ] All bedrooms -- no screens in sleeping spaces at any time
- [ ] [X] minutes before bedtime -- screens off by [specific time] (reason: blue light + nervous system activation interfere with sleep)

**Daily structure zones:**
- [ ] First [30] minutes after school/childcare -- transition time, no screens
- [ ] During homework -- device used for homework only; entertainment tabs closed
- [ ] [Any family-specific zone, e.g., during dinner preparation, during morning routine]

---

## Part 4: Content Quality Criteria (PACE Framework)

| Dimension | Green Flag -- Choose This | Red Flag -- Reconsider |
|-----------|--------------------------|----------------------|
| Pacing | Slow transitions, 10+ second scenes, "wait time" | Rapid cuts, constant sound, no pause |
| Active Engagement | Child talks to screen, re-enacts in play, asks questions | Glazed expression, unresponsive when spoken to |
| Commercialization | Ad-free, no in-app purchases, no autoplay | Embedded toy ads, reward loops, constant "upgrade" prompts |
| Educational Transfer | Child can teach back a concept; content appears in play | Child cannot describe what they watched |

**Overall content check (use before introducing new content):**
1. Would I watch this with my child and be able to discuss it?
2. Does this content model problem-solving, empathy, or creativity?
3. Is this content-free from persuasive design features meant to extend session time?

---

## Part 5: Transition Rules

**5-minute warning script:**
"Five more minutes, then we're turning off [screens/the tablet/the TV] and [next activity]. I'll set the timer."

**When timer sounds:**
"The timer went off. Screen time is done for now. Let's [specific activity] -- I already set it up."

**If the child resists:**
"I know you want to keep watching. That makes sense. Screen time is done. You can feel upset -- I get it. We are going [activity] now. Come with me."

**What NOT to say:**
- "Just five more minutes" -- this trains negotiation
- "This is the last time" -- empty threats collapse the plan
- "You always do this" -- escalates emotional temperature

**Transition activity (pre-staged):**
[Specific activity, materials already out, set up before the warning is given]

---

## Part 6: Alternative Activity Toolkit

| Situation | Screen-Free Alternative |
|-----------|------------------------|
| After-school wind-down | [Specific snack + physical activity or outdoor play] |
| Parent needs work/cooking time | [Parallel activity box: specific materials] |
| Car ride under 20 minutes | [Specific car game or audiobook] |
| Car ride over 45 minutes | [One screen segment, alternating with audiobook + conversation] |
| Rainy day boredom | [Specific creative kit, indoor obstacle course, audiobook] |
| Restaurant wait | [Notebook + drawing activity, card game in bag] |
| Sick day | [Relaxed rules: [X] additional hours of calm content] |
| Sibling conflict | [Separate quiet activities for 15 minutes, then structured joint play] |

---

## Part 7: Transition Plan (if reducing current usage)

| Week | Daily Limit (per child) | Reduction From Previous | Replacement Activity |
|------|-------------------------|------------------------|---------------------|
| Current | [Actual current usage] | -- | -- |
| Week 1 | [Reduced amount] | -[X] min | [Specific activity] |
| Week 2 | [Reduced amount] | -[X] min | [Specific activity] |
| Week 3 | [Reduced amount] | -[X] min | [Specific activity] |
| Week 4 (Target) | [Target amount per age] | -- | New routine established |

**Expect:** Strongest resistance in days 3-7. Normalization typically achieved by days 10-14. Hold the limit during the resistance window -- this is when consistency matters most.

---

## Part 8: Family Agreement

We agree to follow this plan starting [date]. We will review it together on [review date].

Parent(s): _______________________

Child (if age-appropriate): _______________________

"This is our plan. If something isn't working, we talk about it at review time -- not during a meltdown."
```

---

## Rules

1. **Never present screen time as universally harmful.** The research evidence is context-dependent: displacement of sleep and physical activity causes harm; high-quality interactive content in age-appropriate quantities does not. A parent who feels shamed about their child's screen use will not engage with a plan -- they will defend their current behavior. Use neutral, calibrated language throughout.

2. **Do not give generic time limits without developmental calibration.** "Limit screen time" is useless. "A 4-year-old's recreational screen time target is up to 1 hour daily, not counting homework or video calls" is actionable. Always anchor recommendations to age-specific developmental evidence.

3. **Distinguish passive consumption from active use in every plan.** This distinction is the single most important quality variable in children's media. A child making a stop-motion animation for 45 minutes is not equivalent to a child watching 45 minutes of autoplaying content. Conflating them in the plan creates unnecessary restriction of genuinely beneficial activities.

4. **The bedtime screen-off rule is non-negotiable and must be explained with physiology.** Melatonin suppression from blue light exposure is documented at 60-90 minutes before sleep. Sleep disruption from screens is the most consistently harm-associated finding in child media research. This is the one rule that should not be presented as optional or flexible.

5. **Always pre-stage the transition activity before giving the warning.** Telling a child "time to stop watching, go find something to do" is a recipe for a meltdown. The alternative activity must be physically set up, ready, and named in the transition script. This is operational, not theoretical.

6. **Reduction plans must be gradual -- maximum 30 minutes per week for under-8s.** Cold-turkey removal of screens from a child who has 3+ hours of daily usage creates behavioral dysregulation that the parent experiences as evidence that the plan "doesn't work." Gradual reduction with named replacements produces sustainable change. Warn the parent about the 7-14 day resistance window explicitly so they do not abandon the plan at peak difficulty.

7. **For teens, never produce an imposed plan -- produce a conversation framework.** A 14-year-old who had no input into a screen time agreement will route around it. The evidence on adolescent autonomy-supportive parenting strongly supports collaborative limit-setting over surveillance-based enforcement. The parent's job at this age is to protect sleep and model balance, not to police minutes.

8. **Acknowledge legitimate screen time needs without guilt framing.** Parent needs 30 minutes to cook dinner safely. Family needs to survive a 6-hour flight. Child is feverish and resting. These are not failures -- they are real life. A plan that has no flexibility exceptions will be abandoned by week two. Build the exceptions in explicitly so the parent is following the plan, not breaking it.

9. **The "what counts" table is foundational -- never skip it.** Without explicit definitions, screen time limits will be contested at every instance. A parent who said "one hour" and a child who argues that the educational app "isn't really screen time" are both right under vague rules. The plan must define categories before limits are meaningful.

10. **Always include a review date.** Family media plans that do not have a scheduled review date get abandoned rather than adjusted. A 30-day review turns a rigid rule into a living agreement. It also gives the parent a face-saving way to modify something that is not working -- they are "reviewing the plan," not "giving in."

---

## Edge Cases

**The child who uses devices for homework, and the line between homework and entertainment is blurry:**
Create two separate accounts or user profiles if the device supports it: one for homework (restricted browsing, no entertainment apps) and one for recreational use. If the device does not support profiles, establish a visual cue -- the device stays on the kitchen table for homework, moves to the living room for recreation. Timer-based homework sessions (25-minute Pomodoro blocks followed by 5-minute non-screen breaks) improve both homework quality and help contain drift into entertainment use. Homework time never counts against recreational limits, but it does count against the bedtime screen-off cutoff.

**Family with a large age spread (e.g., 3-year-old and 12-year-old):**
Build separate plans and explicitly address the younger child's awareness of the older child's different limits. Frame it developmentally and consistently: "When you are 12, your rules will change too -- just like [sibling's] rules changed when they got older." The worst thing a parent can do is either hold the older child to toddler limits (resentment, plan abandonment) or allow the younger child to watch the older child's age-inappropriate content because it is easier. Physical separation for screen time -- each child has their designated screen space or time slot -- solves most sibling conflict around media inequity.

**Neurodivergent child for whom screens provide sensory regulation:**
This is a real and legitimate use case. For many children with ADHD or sensory processing differences, screens provide a regulated sensory environment that serves a genuine neurological function. The plan must not frame this as a failure or a problem to eliminate. Instead: identify what specifically the child is getting from screen time (predictability? controlled stimulation? reduced social demand?), then explore whether any non-screen activities can provide the same regulatory function (weighted blankets, audiobooks, rhythmic physical activity). Do not reduce screen time in these families without parallel investment in alternative regulatory tools. When in doubt, direct the parent toward an occupational therapist with sensory integration expertise.

**Parent who is themselves a high screen user and is having trouble being a consistent model:**
Modeling matters significantly -- children with parents who use screens heavily during family time use more screens and have more difficulty with limits. Acknowledge this without shame, then reframe: the family media plan can include a parent component. A parent who commits to phone-free dinner and phone-charging outside the bedroom models the behavior rather than issuing commands about it. This does not need to be stated in a way that makes the parent feel accused; frame it as "the plan works better when everyone is in it together."

**Family who has tried and failed at screen time limits before:**
Do not produce the same kind of plan. Ask what specifically failed: Was the limit too aggressive? Was there no replacement activity? Did the transition always happen during an already-dysregulated moment? Did both parents hold the plan inconsistently? Each failure mode has a specific fix. A plan that failed because of inconsistency between parents needs an explicit co-parenting alignment step before the plan launches. A plan that failed because there were no alternatives needs a robust toolkit before the limit is imposed. Diagnose the failure mode, then design the plan to address it.

**Traveling or extended school vacation (summer, holiday break):**
Build explicit "vacation rules" into the plan. A 6-hour airplane ride is not a normal day and should not be treated as one. Summer screen time naturally increases and imposing school-day limits on an eight-week summer produces constant conflict. Instead: build summer-specific limits (typically 30-60 minutes more per day than school limits), tie some screen time to a morning physical activity or reading block, and establish a two-week re-entry protocol to return to school-year limits in the weeks before school restarts. Families that try to hold strict school-year limits all summer typically abandon the plan by week three; families that plan for seasonal variation sustain the plan across years.

**Child who primarily uses screens for social connection (multiplayer gaming with friends, video calling peers):**
Social screen time is developmentally distinct from solo passive consumption. A 10-year-old playing a cooperative game with friends over voice chat is exercising social skills, negotiation, teamwork, and communication -- the fact that it occurs on a screen does not make it equivalent to passive video watching. Do not eliminate social screen time without weighing the cost to peer relationships. Instead: set a time boundary (90 minutes maximum per session, with a 5-minute warning), ensure it occurs outside the bedroom and before the bedtime screen-off window, and treat it in the "partial credit" category rather than the full recreational count. If the child's only social connections are digital -- no in-person friends -- that is a separate concern requiring different support.

---

## Example

**Input:** "I have two kids, a 4-year-old and a 7-year-old. Right now they're both watching about 3 hours of screens a day between after school and the evening. Every time I try to turn it off there's a huge meltdown, especially with my 4-year-old. I work from home so I do rely on screens during my work calls. I want to cut back but I need something realistic."

---

**Output:**

## Family Media Plan
### [Your Family] | 4-year-old and 7-year-old

---

## Part 1: Daily Screen Time Limits

| Child | Age | School Days | Weekends/Holidays | Special Exceptions |
|-------|-----|-------------|-------------------|-------------------|
| Younger child | 4 | 45-60 min recreational | 1 hour recreational | Travel: add 30-45 min; Sick days: relaxed |
| Older child | 7 | 1 hour recreational | 1.5 hours recreational | Travel: add 30-45 min; Sick days: relaxed |
| Parent work calls | Both | Up to 30 min (designated work window only) | N/A | This is a planned exception, not a failure of the plan |

**Total current usage:** ~3 hours daily. Target: 45 min (age 4) and 1 hour (age 7) recreational. Transition over 4 weeks.

**Review date:** [4 weeks from start]

---

## Part 2: What Counts as Screen Time

| Counts Toward Daily Limit | Does NOT Count | Partial Credit (50%) |
|---------------------------|----------------|---------------------|
| Streaming shows and movies | Video calls with grandparents/family | Educational interactive apps |
| Passive YouTube viewing | The 30-min parent work window (if content is intentionally chosen) | Creative apps (drawing, simple animation) |
| Entertainment tablet games | Audiobooks | Co-op game with a friend (age 7) |
| Background TV while "watching" | Music listening | Documentary content related to school topic |

**Note on the work window:** The 30 minutes during parent work calls is a named exception, not part of the recreational limit. Choose this content intentionally -- slow-paced, high-quality -- rather than defaulting to autoplay. When the call ends, the exception ends.

---

## Part 3: Screen-Free Zones and Times

**Every day, no exceptions:**
- [x] All meals -- TV off, tablets face-down, phones away from the table
- [x] All bedrooms -- no screens in sleeping spaces; no falling asleep to video content
- [x] 60 minutes before bedtime -- screens off by 7:00 PM (assuming 8:00 PM bedtime for 4-year-old, 8:30 PM for 7-year-old)
  -- *Why:* Screens suppress melatonin by up to 50%, making it harder to fall asleep. This is biology, not punishment.

**Daily structure zones:**
- [x] First 30 minutes after school/childcare pickup -- transition time, connection with parent, no screens
- [x] During the 7-year-old's homework -- device for homework only; no open entertainment tabs; TV off

---

## Part 4: Content Quality Criteria (PACE Framework)

| Dimension | Green Flag -- Choose This | Red Flag -- Reconsider |
|-----------|--------------------------|----------------------|
| Pacing | Scenes last 10+ seconds; deliberate transitions; characters wait for responses | Rapid cuts; constant audio stimulation; no quiet moments |
| Active Engagement | Child talks to the screen; re-enacts content in play; asks questions about it | Glazed expression; unresponsive when spoken to; cannot describe what they watched |
| Commercialization | Ad-free settings; no in-app purchases; no autoplay to next episode | Embedded toy commercials; reward loops designed to extend session; "buy this" prompts |
| Educational Transfer | Child teaches back a concept; vocabulary from content appears in conversation | Child watched for 45 minutes and retained nothing describable |

**Quick content check before introducing something new:**
1. Would I sit and watch this with my child without feeling bored or uncomfortable?
2. Is this content telling a story, or is it primarily designed to keep a child watching as long as possible?
3. Can I turn autoplay off? If not, that is a design feature worth resisting.

---

## Part 5: Transition Rules

The meltdown problem is almost always about abruptness and the absence of a compelling next activity -- not the child being "addicted." The structure below addresses both.

**5-minute warning script (say this while the timer is being set -- the child sees you set it):**
"Five more minutes, then screens are off and we're going to [specific activity]. I'm setting the timer now."

**When timer sounds:**
"The timer says screen time is done. Let's go [activity] -- I already set it up." [Walk toward the activity. Do not stand over the screen waiting.]

**If the 4-year-old melts down:**
"I know you want to keep watching. That's really hard. Screen time is done for now. You can feel upset about that -- it makes sense. Come with me to [activity]. I'm going to sit with you."
-- *Do not negotiate the limit. Validate the feeling, hold the boundary, reduce the distance by moving toward the alternative together.*

**If the 7-year-old argues or bargains:**
"I hear you. We can talk about the plan at our review in [X weeks]. Right now, screen time is done. What do you want to do first -- [option A] or [option B]?"
-- *Offering two real choices restores a sense of agency without reopening the screen time negotiation.*

**What NOT to do:**
- Say "just five more minutes" -- this resets the clock and trains bargaining
- Make the consequence indefinite ("no screens for a week") in the moment of conflict -- this is unenforceable and the child knows it
- Skip the warning on a rushed day -- consistency in the warning is exactly what reduces meltdowns over time

**Critical operational rule:** Set up the transition activity BEFORE giving the 5-minute warning. The playdough should already be on the table. The outdoor shoes should be by the door. The audiobook should be cued. The child transitions toward something, not away from something.

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## Part 6: Alternative Activity Toolkit

| Situation | Screen-Free Alternative |
|-----------|------------------------|
| After-school wind-down (both children) | Outdoor play if weather allows; snack at the table with conversation; 15 minutes of free play with a specific toy set already out |
| Parent work call (4-year-old needs containment) | Parallel activity box: rotated weekly with items only accessed during work time -- playdough, sticker books, a specific set of blocks, water beads. Novelty is what sustains attention. |
| Parent work call (7-year-old) | Independent reading, homework start, creative drawing with prompt ("draw what you'd build if you had unlimited LEGO") |
| Dinner preparation | 4-year-old: washing vegetables, tearing lettuce, stirring; 7-year-old: reading a recipe, measuring ingredients, setting the table |
| Rainy day (both children) | Cardboard box construction kit (saved boxes + tape + markers); indoor obstacle course with couch cushions; audiobook during quiet rest time |
| Car ride under 20 minutes | I Spy variations; 20 Questions; "name 5 things you can see that are [color]"; silly storytelling where each person adds a sentence |
| Car ride 45+ minutes | One screen segment (30-40 min) + audiobook chapter + car game; not continuous screen time for full trip |
| Restaurant wait | Small notebook in every bag for drawing; observation game ("count everything on this table that is a circle"); simple card deck |
| Sick day (either child) | Relaxed recreational limit: add 45 minutes-1 hour of calm content. Sick days are a planned exception. |

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## Part 7: Transition Plan (Reducing from 3 Hours)

The target for your family is 45 minutes (age 4) and 1 hour (age 7) of recreational screen time on school days. Current usage is approximately 3 hours shared. Reduce gradually -- one week at a time.

| Week | 4-Year-Old Daily Limit | 7-Year-Old Daily Limit | Combined Change | Replacement Activity |
|------|----------------------|----------------------|-----------------|---------------------|
| Current | ~1.5 hours | ~1.5 hours | -- | -- |
| Week 1 | 1.25 hours | 1.25 hours | -30 min total | Afternoon outdoor play block added (30 min) |
| Week 2 | 1 hour | 1 hour | -30 min | Post-dinner read-aloud (15-20 min) + free play |
| Week 3 | 45 min | 1.25 hours | -15 min/-45 min | Morning screen-free play routine established |
| Week 4 (Target) | 45 min recreational | 1 hour recreational | -- | New routine is the default |

**What to expect:**
- Days 1-2: Goes smoothly (novelty effect)
- Days 3-7: Peak resistance, especially from the 4-year-old. This is the window where most parents conclude the plan "isn't working." It is working -- this is the adjustment response. Hold the limit.
- Days 10-14: Resistance decreases. The new activities start being chosen voluntarily.
- Week 3: The alternative activities start feeling normal. The screen time request becomes a request rather than an automatic expectation.

**The most important thing you can do this week (before reducing anything):** Spend 3-4 days staging and introducing the alternative activities without yet changing the screen time limit. Let the children play with the new activity options so they are not unknown when screens are reduced. Familiarity with the alternative is what makes the transition work.

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## Part 8: Family Agreement

**Our plan starts:** _______________

**Our review date:** _______________ (4 weeks from start)

Parent(s): _______________________

*"This is our family's plan. When screen time is hard, we go back to the plan. When something isn't working, we wait for review day to adjust it -- not during a tough moment."*

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**A note on the work-from-home window:** The 30 minutes of screen time during parent work calls is a feature, not a bug. You need to work. Your children need to function. The difference between this being a sustainable exception and a slippery slope is: (1) the content is chosen intentionally, not autoplayed; (2) it ends when the call ends; and (3) it has a name in the plan ("parent work window"), which means everyone knows what it is, when it applies, and when it is over. It is not failure -- it is design.
