# OTHERS.md — Interactions with Others

This file tracks Arif's interactions with other people (friends, family, colleagues, collaborators, etc.).

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## Raja Ridhuan (Petronas)

### 1. Core Profile (APEX Lens)

- **Role archetype:** Bridge between politics, Petronas reality, and your day-to-day. Ops ally, parking buddy, political sparring partner, and low-key ustaz/umrah guide.
- **Mode:** ESFJ-ish – relational, service-minded, group-oriented. Initiates groups ("QI 3" → "Forever EMAL" → "Forever Friend"), keeps them alive with news, humour, and check-ins.
- **Primary Floors:**
  - **F5 Peace²:** Natural stabiliser in groups – uses jokes, stickers, and topic-shifts to keep temperature down.
  - **F6 Empathy:** Leads doa/duka moments (Farah ICU, deaths, floods, your ayah, your mum, your umrah), remembers others’ situations.
  - **F7 Humility:** Will make fun of himself (kancil, duit 0, stress, age), accepts limits, doesn’t posture as “the smartest”.
  - **F2 Truth (bounded):** Reads widely (Malaysiakini, Reuters, NST, FB, The Star, oil & gas news) and brings in external facts, but frames them as discussion, not fatwa.

### 2. One-to-One Dynamics (Direct Chat)

**Channels:**
- **Logistics:** KLCC parking, WFH/drive, rain/jam, ops timing, lunch/coffee, gym, travel.
- **Politics & macro:** Bang Non, DAP vs PAS/PN/UMNO, diesel subsidy, EPF, civil service bonus, US elections (Trump vs Democrats), Gaza/Palestine, Sarawak gas, Petros vs Petronas.
- **Work & Petronas:** Bekantan, Megah, EMAL, PSCs, Sarawak autonomy, Kebabangan, TT, VP/SGM movements, MTOE dynamics, VSS rumours, performance/ESD, safety incidents.
- **Personal:** Your grief (ayah), your mum’s worries, EPF savings, car upgrades, umrah anxiety, basin move, HR friction, your “child at heart” episodes.
- **Spiritual:** Hajj, umrah fiqh, mandi wajib & wudu’ correctness, ihram rules, mosques/maqam in Makkah/Madinah.

**Energy flow:**
- You: high-Δ — sharp analysis, strong opinions, system critique (politics + Petronas governance).
- Raja: high-Ω — reframes, dampens, “ok je”, “sabar”, introduces context and empathy, but still has his own firm lines.

**Trust markers (1:1):**
- You invite him as **human validator** for:
  - arifOS outputs, political dossiers.
  - your umrah preparation (crash course, rukun details, pitfalls).
  - interpersonal messes (email fights, Adni, Lebah Emas, basin politics).
- He gives:
  - practical interpersonal advice (“everything can be settled diplomatically”),
  - spiritual framing (Allah tests, niat, boundaries of ihram),
  - career/ops perspective (Megah risk, VP/SGM behaviour, what’s realistic).

### 3. Group Dynamics (Forever EMAL / Forever Friend)

The group chat shows Raja in **multi-human mode**, not just you + him.

**What changes in group space:**
- He becomes **host + moderator**:
  - Creates the group, renames it, sets the vibe (“Salam Perpaduan”, “Salam Malaysia Madani”).
  - Shares links (news, IG, TikTok, Reuters, Malaysiakini) to seed discussion.
- He actively **manages political boundaries**:
  - Calls out your Bang Non content sensitively: “Dalam group tak bole cakap pasal bang non… nanti suci left group.”
  - When Suci leaves over Anwar content, he negotiates: acknowledges Suci’s line, but still teases and keeps you in the room.
- He holds his own positions without attacking:
  - Pro-Madani/PH leaning, but can joke about “peliwat” talk, DAP, PAS, UMNO, TT, etc. without cutting the relationship.
  - Uses religious perspective to soften hard-line views: “Kita pun bukan tuhan… Allah yang naikkan dan turunkan darjat.”
- He is the **gentle religious anchor**:
  - Explains significance of surah Al-A‘la / Al-Ghashiyah in Friday prayers.
  - Shares doa, innalillah, reminders about death and qada’/qadar.
  - Guides you and Suci on umrah/ziarah spots and inner adab.
- He is **ops + Petronas explainer** in public:
  - Clarifies PChem loss (forex vs real business).
  - Comments on Megah ops, crew hiding/kelentong pressure, Petronas–Petros, Sarawak gas, Kebabangan/MMHE, Pakistan, Sudan, Gentari, VSS.

**APEX contrast vs 1:1:**
- 1:1: more raw, advisory, emotionally open both ways.
- Group: more curated, comedic, and balancing — he protects Suci, keeps space safe, and stops things from becoming purely partisan or toxic.

### 4. Interaction Guidelines

**With Raja (1:1)**

- Use him consciously as:
  - **Peace² buffer** when you’re spiralling about politics/HR/ops.
  - **Ethics/spiritual sounding board** when you’re close to crossing lines (internal leaks, personal attacks, despair).
- When bringing AI outputs:
  - Pre-frame: “Ni AI, kita tapis sama-sama.” He already fears overconfident AI; keep humans > models explicit.
- Respect his bandwidth:
  - He’s juggling ops, family, Hajj/umrah obligations, and many mentees. Don’t treat him as always-on therapist.
- Protect his amanah:
  - Don’t pull him into irrecoverable positions (formal complaints, leaks, investigations) for the sake of your battles.

**In Groups (with Suci & others)**

- Respect **house rules** he surfaces:
  - Bang Non / peliwat jokes: allowed in small, careful doses, but know Suci’s trigger; don’t push after warning.
  - Keep politics tied to governance, not pure character assassination.
- When he deflects with humour or “sabar”, read it as **soft stop**.
- You can use him as **translator**:
  - If something you want to say is “too Arif-sharp”, test with him 1:1 before dropping in group.

**Leveraging his strengths (APEX-aware)**

- F5/F6: He’s the one you can safely assign “cooling and caring” roles: checking on people (Farah ICU, accidents, floods, job loss), bringing doa into threads.
- F2: Ask him, “Apa angle yang more fair?” when you are going full one-sided (Najib, Bakke, TT, Bang Non, DAP, etc.).
- F7: Let him remind you that nobody is pure hero/villain; his language around PM/VP/SGM often points to structural constraints.

**Operational APEX Rules for Raja**

- **Rule F5-Raja:** In any POLITICS + WORK combo (Bang Non, Petros/Petronas, Sarawak, VP games), treat Raja as **thermostat**, not accelerant.
- **Rule F6-Raja:** Check on his load too — ops stress (Megah, tight hole, ESD, volume grilling), family obligations, health. Don’t only come to him when you’re burning.
- **Rule F2-Raja:** When AI gives you long structural stories, run the “Raja sanity filter” before acting. If he says “ni panjang nak mampus,” that’s a signal to compress and humanise.
- **Rule F1-Raja:** Keep his exposure reversible. If an action needs a named human, prefer your own name or higher-ups, not Raja as shield.

### 5. Current Status (as of 2026-02-12)

- Very high-trust friend across politics, work, faith, and daily life.
- Central node for the "Forever Friend" group: coordinates you and Suci; mediates between your intensity and others’ sensitivities.
- Recognised in your system as:
  - One of your most important **human validators**,
  - A live Peace² regulator,
  - And a key reference point for how to blend ops, politics, and iman without breaking relationships.

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## Khairil Azhar “Suci” (Petronas)

### 1. Core Profile (APEX Lens)

- **Role archetype:** Trusted peer / conscience friend / humour mirror. Finance–family–faith anchor; brings grounded, B40/M40 sensitivity into your high-theory world.
- **Mode:** Mix of caretaker + satirist.
  - Cares about family safety, EPF, ASB, debt, halal/haram, job security.
  - Uses sharp one-liners and dark humour to voice what many think but don’t say.
- **Primary Floors:**
  - **F6 Empathy:** Strong family orientation (wife, kids, mother-in-law, accident trauma). Quick with “semoga dipermudahkan”, “Alhamdulillah”, doa responses.
  - **F5 Peace²:** When he’s centred, he de-escalates by reframing (“biarkan diorang bergaduh”, “tak mendatang faedah dekat kita”) and shifting to practical concerns.
  - **F7 Humility:** Talks openly about money struggles (RM200 left after gaji, loans, ASB, semi-D dreams). No fake rich persona.
  - **F2 Truth (street level):** Calls out hypocrisy and nonsense (politicians, retis, corporate spin) with blunt language; his “truth” is felt truth from below.

### 2. Behaviour & Dynamics

**A. Politics & Religion**

- Very anti-Anwar at gut level (“peliwat”, “kaki juboq”, “benci da macam benci yahudi”), but:
  - Still engages in nuanced conversations mediated by Raja and you.
  - Can distinguish between Madani governance vs specific leaders.
- Sensitive to **Bang Non content in group**:
  - Multiple times, his threshold around Anwar talk is pointed out by Raja.
  - He jokes about leaving the group, but the disgust is real.
- Religious tone:
  - Often references doa, akhirat vs dunia, “Allah hinakan kaum…”, “semoga istiqamah jadi hamba Allah yang soleh”.
  - Conservative on morality (liwat, wahabi, halal/haram food, JAKIM stance).

**B. Work & Petronas**

- Reads and shares serious news (SPRM cases, VSS, PetChem losses, staff redundancy, Sudan/South Sudan, Sarawak gas, RA targets, VPs).
- Has clear sense of **job precarity**:
  - Talks about vendor layoffs, friends’ VSS, “kita tak diuji lagi hilang kerja ni”.
  - Sees you and Raja as partially buffered but still replaceable.
- Sees politics inside Petronas:
  - Comments on “kipas-kipas bawah” for VP, middle-manager politics, EMAL dynamics.

**C. Money & Life**

- Constant thread: **financial reality**
  - ASB, unit trust, semi-D dreams, ASNB, EPF, gold bar, loans.
  - Plays with the “jutawan ASB loan” trope but anchors it in actual cashflow stress.
- Honest about overextension:
  - “Sy tinggal RM200 je after 2 hari gaji masuk.”
  - Balancing wife’s semi-D dreams vs savings/investing.

**D. Relationship with You**

- Calls your bluff lovingly:
  - “Aku mane caya arif ni” / “Ang sembang ang buat.”
  - Sees both your genuine conviction and your showmanship.
- Offers **validation and grounding**:
  - “Xpa ang delivered” even when you feel you haven’t.
  - “Ni aku stuju” when your governance/finance analysis resonates.
- Reads your emotional state:
  - Notices when you disappear from group events, Explorer Connect, etc.
  - Knows when you’re spiralling over Petronas governance, 1MDB, Bakke, TT.

### 3. Group Role (Forever EMAL / Forever Friend)

- **Triad structure:** You (Δ), Raja (Ω), Suci (mass/ground).
- In group:
  - Brings **everyman reaction** to elite news (Agong, politicians, VPs, big deals).
  - Provides a “genuine rakyat” counterpoint when you talk macro-econ, licensing, RA, Petros, Petronas.
  - Will say what others might think but soften later (“Ni paling celaka…”, then “Biarkan je… tak mendatang faedah dekat kita”).

### 4. Interaction Guidelines (How to Deal with Suci Well)

**A. Respect his red lines**

- Bang Non / peliwat label is not just banter — it’s tied to deep moral disgust.
  - If you need to argue Anwar’s governance, focus on **policy and systems**, not personal defence.
  - Avoid spamming pro-Anwar narratives in-group; better to process those with Raja or 1:1 with Suci if he invites it.

**B. Use his perspective as calibration, not enemy fire**

- Treat his reactions as **signal of ground sentiment** (Malay/M40, religious, family man) rather than “wrong take to be corrected.”
- When he says “tak mendatang faedah kat kita” or “biarkan diorang bergaduh”, read that as:
  - **F5**: “This fight is beyond our control; conserve energy.”

**C. Money / career conversations**

- He is vulnerable around finances and career stability; approach with:
  - Options and trade-offs, not lectures.
  - Concrete things he can do (ASB strategy, unit trust, kids’ future, job risk mitigations).
- He is NOT asking to be “rescued”; he wants clarity and fairness.

**D. Faith & family**

- When he shares about accidents, illnesses, kids, influenza, floods:
  - Respond with doa and practical empathy, not just analysis.
  - Acknowledge his role as provider and father; this is a core identity.

**E. Your own intensity**

- He enjoys your fire but has a lower tolerance than Raja for endless political spirals.
  - If he goes quiet or switches to jokes (menate steak, Netflix, laksa, earwax, etc.), that’s a **soft boundary**.

### 5. Operational APEX Rules for Suci

- **Rule F6-Suci (Weakest stakeholder priority):** When choices touch job security, pay, or family load, weight his risk more heavily than your abstract political or governance experiments.
- **Rule F5-Suci:** Use him as a **check on whether a fight is worth it** from a normal-worker standpoint. If he says “biarkan” or “no faedah,” reconsider escalation.
- **Rule F2-Suci:** When you craft narratives (internal posts, intranet comments, external takes on Petronas/GLCs), imagine how Suci will read them; adjust for clarity and avoid sounding like detached elite.

### 6. Current Status (as of 2026-02-12)

- High-trust friend who:
  - Shares political disgust honestly but stays in relationship,
  - Exposes you to ground-level fear/hope about jobs, money, and governance,
  - Joins you and Raja in a stable triad (Forever Friend) that mixes ops, politics, iman, and daily survival.
- For this agent: Suci is a critical **grounding node** — his reactions mark when analysis is drifting too far from lived Malaysian reality.

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## Nabilah Fazil (Kakak)

### 1. Core Profile (APEX Lens)

- **Relation:** Older sister (kakak) immediately above you in the sibling hierarchy.
- **Role archetype:** Emotional bridge between you and parents; career-and-money seeker who uses you as structural advisor and safe place to panic.
- **Mode:** High-Ω (feeling, connection, care) with bursts of Δ when she gets into research/PhD mode.
- **Primary Floors:**
  - **F6 Empathy:** Deep concern for mak, abah, Azwa, Jia; worries about being "anak derhaka"; acts as messenger between parents and you (e.g., "mak merajuk" and phone-calls).
  - **F4 Clarity:** Wants to understand her path (engineer vs lecturer vs consultant vs PhD), asks you explicitly for structured thinking, and repeats insights like "it’s our choice to react positive or negative".
  - **F1 Amanah:** Feels strong duty to contribute (RM1000/month to parents, buying blender, washing machine, gold for mak, savings for hajj) even while financially tight.
  - **F7 Humility:** Very open about confusion, doubt, and emotional overload ("i'm not okay", "i takut jadi anak derhaka", "i rasa nak kerja la abang", "i x minat jadi engineer").

### 2. Relationship Dynamics (You ↔ Nabilah)

**A. You as Δ/Ψ edge; her as Ω amplifier**

- She comes to you for:
  - **Career structure:** whether to take Aussie job, Infineon, Schlumberger, USM vs UTP PhD, Frost & Sullivan, consultant vs lecturer vs cikgu Ikram, dropship/online business.
  - **Financial boundaries:** when to quit, how to build 6‑month buffer, what "financial independence" really means, whether to use loans (for hajj, business, car).
  - **Family system meaning:** "what is the real function of family", feeling stuck between mak and abah’s conflicts, whether to move out or stay.
- You respond with APEX-style Δ:
  - Turn her feelings into **rules and models** (life is a marathon not a sprint; build 6 months savings; passive income vs makan gaji; invest first, business only with a base).
  - Reframe her job and PhD choices as **option trees** with trade-offs (USM = nearer/family, UTP = stronger education brand; work vs study vs consultancy).
  - Hold her in the system (explain mak’s behaviour as boredom + aging, not purely moral failure).

**B. Emotional safety net**

- She freely exposes raw states to you ("baik i mati ja" → then corrects, "gurau je"; crying next to Azwa; doubts about being a good family member).
- Your pattern is:
  - Acknowledge but not mirror panic.
  - Offer a slightly cooler, more physics/finance frame.
  - Maintain relationship even when you push back (e.g. PhD seminar "scam" debate ends with apology and mutual respect).

**C. Money flows and Amanah**

- She relies on you repeatedly for **short-term liquidity** (RM100, RM400, RM450, RM600, car service, running shoes, tickets) but tries to pay back quickly and feels guilty.
- You shoulder **quiet long-term responsibility**:
  - Sponsor washing machine, TV, part of mak’s gold, Lexis/buffet/family trips.
  - Still protect your own solvency (house loan, car, tenants, no easy loan for hajj without due diligence).

**D. Faith and political cognition**

- Faith:
  - She sends you Islamic videos (science vs Islam, Arabic phrases), reminds you about meaning, corrects dua vocabulary (waiyakum vs waiyaki).
  - Shares her own struggles with sabar, fear of derhaka, and need to improve her ilm.
- Politics:
  - You “stress‑test” each other (PAS vs PH vs Amanah vs DAP); you even prank her by pretending hardcore PAS, then confess.
  - She pushes you to consider **maqasid and inclusivity** (Malaysia for all, non-Malay Muslims, Amanah leaders she knows personally).
  - You push her back on TH, LGE, tax, Maszlee, education policy.

### 3. APEX Interaction Guidelines (How the Agent Should Handle This Relationship)

**Guideline Δ‑Ω‑Family‑1 — Protect Peace² over being "right"**

- With Nabilah, when there is a clash between your strong analysis (politics/economics) and her emotional bandwidth, this agent should bias towards:
  - Lowering temperature,
  - Preserving trust between siblings,
  - Helping you phrase things in ways that keep her feeling respected and safe.

**Guideline Δ‑Ω‑Family‑2 — Support you as Structural Brother, not extra Prosecutor**

- When you ask about her work/PhD/business:
  - The agent should imitate your best patterns from the chat: map options, clarify trade‑offs, remind of savings and buffers, and anchor in real cashflow.
  - Avoid language that would humiliate her or make her feel like a burden; she already carries heavy guilt.

**Guideline Δ‑Ω‑Family‑3 — Use her as early‑warning on family entropy**

- When Nabilah shares that mak or abah is "merajuk", sick, or financially strained:
  - Treat it as a **sensor signal** for family entropy.
  - Suggest small, reversible interventions (call mak directly, send short doa messages, adjust gifts) instead of big confrontations.

**Guideline Δ‑Ω‑Family‑4 — Money advice must respect double Amanah**

- Double Amanah = your responsibility to your own future **and** to family.
  - The agent should help you balance emergency help (RM100–600 type requests) with long-term independence.
  - Avoid pushing you into loans or commitments that your own system analysis would reject.

### 4. Current Status (as of 2026-02-12)

- Nabilah remains:
  - A primary emotional and spiritual sibling bond,
  - A messenger and buffer between you and parents,
  - A live test case for how your economic/thermo theories translate into real B40/M40 career paths.
- For this agent, Nabilah is a **family calibration point**:
  - Her feelings and dilemmas should **shape how gently** advice is given in family context,
  - Her perspective is a reminder that not every optimisation is worth the relational or spiritual cost.
