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name: relationship-compatibility
description: Analyze BaZi compatibility for romantic relationships (合婚). Examines elemental harmony, Day Master interaction, and long-term compatibility potential.
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# Relationship Compatibility Analysis

This skill analyzes BaZi compatibility between two people for romantic relationships, commonly known as 合婚 (Hé Hūn). It examines how their charts interact, identifies harmonious and challenging aspects, and provides practical relationship advice.

**💑 Modern Relationship Framework**: This is NOT a "destined match" prediction - it's a **relationship dynamics analysis** that:
- Identifies natural areas of harmony and potential friction
- Explains different communication and emotional styles
- Provides strategies for navigating challenges
- Highlights growth opportunities for both partners

**Remember**: **No compatibility score determines relationship success**. Awareness, communication, and commitment matter most. BaZi simply provides insights into natural dynamics.

> "合婚分析提供洞察，不是宣判。关系的成功靠双方努力。"  
> *Compatibility analysis provides insights, not verdicts. Relationship success depends on both partners' efforts.*

## When to Use This Skill

- **Pre-marriage consultation**: Traditional compatibility check
- **Relationship counseling**: Understanding couple dynamics
- **Dating advice**: Assessing new relationship potential
- **Conflict resolution**: Understanding underlying tensions
- **Timing marriage**: Finding auspicious periods for wedding

## What This Skill Does

1. **Chart Comparison**: Analyzes both BaZi charts side-by-side
2. **Element Harmony**: Examines if elements support or conflict
3. **Day Master Interaction**: How core personalities mesh
4. **Life Path Alignment**: Whether life directions are compatible
5. **Challenge Identification**: Potential areas of friction
6. **Strength Assessment**: Overall compatibility score and outlook
7. **Practical Advice**: Relationship strategies for harmony

## Compatibility Factors

### 1. Day Master Harmony (日主相合)

**Highly Compatible Pairs**:
- **Generating Relationships**: One element nourishes the other
  - Water Day Master + Wood Day Master (Water generates Wood)
  - Wood Day Master + Fire Day Master
  - Fire Day Master + Earth Day Master
  - Earth Day Master + Metal Day Master
  - Metal Day Master + Water Day Master

- **Same Element**: Mutual understanding
  - Wood + Wood: Grow together
  - Fire + Fire: Passionate bond
  - Earth + Earth: Stable foundation
  - Metal + Metal: Principled partnership
  - Water + Water: Deep connection

**Challenging Pairs**:
- **Controlling Relationships**: One controls/restrains the other
  - Water Day Master + Fire Day Master (Water controls Fire)
  - Fire Day Master + Metal Day Master
  - Metal Day Master + Wood Day Master
  - Wood Day Master + Earth Day Master
  - Earth Day Master + Water Day Master

*Note*: Controlling relationships aren't necessarily bad - they can create growth through challenge, but require more awareness and effort.

### 2. Yin-Yang Balance (阴阳配合)

**Ideal**: One Yang, one Yin (e.g., 甲 + 乙, 丙 + 丁)
- Creates complementary dynamic
- Balance between active and receptive
- Natural give-and-take

**Same Polarity**: Both Yang or both Yin
- Can work but may lack balance
- Yang + Yang: High energy but potential conflict
- Yin + Yin: Harmonious but may lack initiative

### 3. Elemental Balance (五行互补)

**Complementary**: Partner provides missing elements
- Person A lacks Water → Person B strong in Water
- Creates mutual support and completion

**Competing**: Both have same excesses/deficiencies
- Both lack Earth → relationship lacks stability
- Both excessive Fire → burnout, conflicts

### 4. Zodiac Compatibility (生肖相合)

**Six Harmonies (六合)**:
- Rat + Ox, Tiger + Pig, Rabbit + Dog
- Dragon + Rooster, Snake + Monkey, Horse + Goat

**Three Harmonies (三合)**:
- Rat-Dragon-Monkey, Ox-Snake-Rooster
- Tiger-Horse-Dog, Rabbit-Goat-Pig

**Six Clashes (六冲)** - Challenging:
- Rat ↔ Horse, Ox ↔ Goat, Tiger ↔ Monkey
- Rabbit ↔ Rooster, Dragon ↔ Dog, Snake ↔ Pig

**Six Harms (六害)** - Friction:
- Rat ↔ Goat, Ox ↔ Horse, Tiger ↔ Snake
- Rabbit ↔ Dragon, Monkey ↔ Pig, Rooster ↔ Dog

### 5. Luck Cycle Alignment (大运流年)

- Are they in compatible or conflicting cycles?
- Do they face challenges at the same time (mutual support)?
- Are they in different life phases (growth vs. stability)?

## Analysis Process

### Step 1: Calculate Both Charts
Ensure accurate BaZi for both individuals:
```
Person A: [Four Pillars]
Person B: [Four Pillars]
```

### Step 2: Compare Day Masters
```
Person A Day Master: 甲木 (Yang Wood)
Person B Day Master: 癸水 (Yin Water)

Relationship: Water generates Wood ✅
Polarity: Yang + Yin ✅
Assessment: Highly harmonious foundation
```

### Step 3: Analyze Element Balance
```
Person A Elements: Wood 1, Fire 3, Earth 2, Metal 1, Water 1
Person B Elements: Wood 1, Fire 1, Earth 1, Metal 2, Water 3

Complementarity:
- A has excess Fire (passionate) - B has moderate Fire
- B has strong Water (calm) - A lacks Water
- Good balance: B's Water nourishes A's Wood
```

### Step 4: Check Zodiac Compatibility
```
Person A Year Branch: 寅 (Tiger)
Person B Year Branch: 午 (Horse)

Relationship: Tiger-Horse = 三合 (Three Harmony) ✅
Assessment: Natural allies, shared values
```

### Step 5: Examine Life Phases
```
Person A: Currently in Fire luck cycle (high energy)
Person B: Currently in Earth luck cycle (stability-seeking)

Dynamic: A's energy + B's grounding = Balanced partnership
```

### Step 6: Identify Challenges
```
Potential Friction Points:
1. A's excessive Fire may overwhelm B
2. Different energy levels (A high, B moderate)
3. A may feel restricted by B's caution
```

### Step 7: Calculate Compatibility Score
```
Day Master Harmony:     95% ✅
Yin-Yang Balance:       100% ✅
Element Complementarity: 85% ✅
Zodiac Compatibility:   90% ✅
Luck Cycle Alignment:   75% ⚠️
━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━
Overall Compatibility:  89% - Highly Compatible
```

## Output Format

```markdown
# BaZi Compatibility Analysis
## 合婚分析 (Relationship Matching)

**Person A**: [Name]
**Person B**: [Name]
**Analysis Date**: [Date]

---

## 📊 Compatibility Overview

**Overall Score**: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 89/100 - Highly Compatible

**Summary**: This is a highly compatible pairing with strong foundational harmony. 
Person B's calm, nurturing Water nature perfectly complements Person A's ambitious 
Wood energy. The relationship has excellent potential for long-term growth and 
mutual support.

---

## 🌟 Strengths of This Partnership

### 1. Complementary Energies
- **A's Wood + B's Water**: Natural nourishing relationship
- B provides the emotional depth and wisdom A needs
- A brings growth momentum and vision B appreciates
- Yin-Yang balance creates natural give-and-take

### 2. Elemental Harmony
- A's passionate Fire nature is moderated by B's calm Water
- B's strong Water compensates for A's Water deficiency
- Good balance prevents extremes on both sides
- Elements flow naturally in generating cycles

### 3. Shared Values
- Tiger-Horse zodiac harmony indicates aligned life goals
- Both value growth and forward movement
- Natural understanding and mutual support
- Feel like "teammates" rather than competitors

### 4. Growth Potential
- Challenges will promote growth, not destruction
- Both have capacity for self-reflection
- Different strengths create learning opportunities
- Balance between stability (B) and change (A)

---

## ⚠️ Potential Challenges

### 1. Energy Level Differences
**Dynamic**: A (Yang Wood + Fire) has higher external energy than B (Yin Water)

**How It Shows**:
- A may want more social activities, adventures
- B may prefer quiet, intimate settings
- Risk: A feels restricted, B feels overwhelmed

**Strategy**:
- ✅ Alternate activity levels - some weeks active, some restful
- ✅ A: Honor B's need for recharge time
- ✅ B: Occasionally say yes to A's adventures
- ✅ Find middle-ground activities you both enjoy

### 2. Expression Styles
**Dynamic**: Fire vs. Water - direct vs. subtle

**How It Shows**:
- A expresses passionately, directly
- B communicates more subtly, intuitively
- Risk: Misunderstandings, hurt feelings

**Strategy**:
- ✅ A: Practice listening to B's subtle cues
- ✅ B: Express needs more directly sometimes
- ✅ Create "check-in" rituals for clear communication
- ✅ Appreciate different styles as strengths

### 3. Decision-Making Speed
**Dynamic**: Wood's decisiveness vs. Water's reflection

**How It Shows**:
- A decides quickly, wants to move forward
- B needs time to contemplate, consider angles
- Risk: A feels held back, B feels rushed

**Strategy**:
- ✅ Agree on timeline for major decisions
- ✅ A: Patience with B's process yields better outcomes
- ✅ B: Set deadline for final decision
- ✅ Separate urgent vs. important decisions

---

## 💕 Relationship Dynamics

### How You Complement Each Other

**Person A Brings**:
- Vision and direction
- Energy and initiative
- Optimism and enthusiasm
- Growth mindset

**Person B Brings**:
- Wisdom and perspective
- Emotional depth and intuition
- Calm and steadiness
- Nurturing support

**Together You Create**:
- Dynamic yet stable partnership
- Balance between action and reflection
- Growth with deep roots
- Passionate connection with emotional safety

### Love Languages to Honor

**For Person A (Wood/Fire)**:
- Words of affirmation (recognize achievements)
- Quality time (adventures together)
- Physical touch (warm, expressive)
- Acts of service (support their goals)

**For Person B (Water)**:
- Quality time (deep, uninterrupted connection)
- Words of affirmation (acknowledge their depth)
- Physical touch (gentle, consistent)
- Emotional safety (trust, vulnerability)

---

## 🗓️ Timing Considerations

### Current Cycles (2026)

**Person A**: In Fire Luck Cycle (peak energy, recognition)
**Person B**: In Earth Luck Cycle (building stability)

**Relationship Impact**:
- Good time for A to advance career with B's grounding support
- B provides stable base for A's ambitions
- Balance between external achievement (A) and internal growth (B)
- Potential for building lasting foundations together

### Auspicious Periods for Marriage

**Highly Favorable**:
- Spring 2026 (Wood season supports A's Day Master)
- Spring 2027 (Rabbit year - harmonious with both charts)

**Consider Avoiding**:
- Late Summer 2026 (transitional energies)
- Autumn cycles (Metal season controls A's Wood)

### Long-Term Outlook (10-Year Cycles)

**Next 5 years**: Harmonious cycles for both - good for building together
**Years 5-10**: A enters Metal cycle (challenges) - B's support crucial
**Years 10+**: Both enter more stable phases - deepening partnership

---

## 🎯 Practical Advice

### Daily Practices for Harmony

1. **Morning Connection** (5 min)
   - Share intentions for the day
   - Brief physical connection
   - Acknowledge each other

2. **Evening Decompression** (15 min)
   - A: Give B space to unwind first
   - B: Engage with A's day when ready
   - Share highlights, not everything

3. **Weekly Check-In** (30 min)
   - Relationship health discussion
   - Upcoming needs/schedules
   - Appreciations and concerns

### Managing Conflicts

**When A is Frustrated**:
- Breathe and count to 10 (Fire control)
- Express without blaming
- Remember B's Water calms your Fire

**When B is Upset**:
- Don't retreat completely (communicate)
- Express needs, not just feelings
- Remember A's Wood needs your Water

**Resolution Strategy**:
- Take breaks if heated (Fire needs cooling)
- Return to conversation when calm
- Focus on solution, not blame
- Acknowledge both perspectives valid

### Life Decisions Together

**Major Decisions (Career, Home, Children)**:
- Start with A's vision sharing
- B provides reflective questions
- Joint research and exploration
- B sets timeline for decision
- A makes final call with B's input
- Both commit fully once decided

---

## 💎 Special Strengths of This Union

### 1. Growth Partnership
Your relationship is like a well-watered garden - B's Water consistently nourishes 
A's Wood, allowing sustained growth without burning out. This isn't a flashy 
romance but a deep, enduring connection.

### 2. Mutual Evolution
A inspires B to take action and embrace change. B teaches A the power of 
reflection and emotional depth. You make each other better.

### 3. Resilience
Water and Wood together create resilience - flexible (Wood) yet nourishing 
(Water). This relationship can weather storms that would break more rigid 
partnerships.

### 4. Authentic Expression
The Yin-Yang balance allows both to be fully themselves. A doesn't have to 
tone down ambition; B doesn't have to be more outgoing. You accept each other.

---

## 🌱 Growth Recommendations

### For Person A
- **Cultivate Water energy**: Meditation, reflection time
- **Honor B's pace**: See their caution as wisdom
- **Channel Fire constructively**: Creative projects together
- **Appreciate depth**: Learn to value B's subtle strengths

### For Person B
- **Embrace some Wood energy**: Take calculated risks with A
- **Express more directly**: Your needs deserve clear voice
- **Support A's Fire**: Encourage their passions
- **Celebrate differences**: Your calm is a gift, not a deficit

### Together
- **Elemental dates**: 
  - Water dates (beach, spa) for B's nourishment
  - Wood dates (hiking, museum) for growth together
- **Balanced social life**: Mix of group and intimate settings
- **Joint creative projects**: Combine A's vision + B's refinement
- **Spiritual practices**: Connect on deeper level (both value meaning)

---

## 🎊 Compatibility Verdict

**Rating**: ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ (89/100) - Highly Compatible

**Category**: "Nourishing Partnership" - Water and Wood

**Prognosis**: Excellent long-term potential. This is a relationship with strong 
foundational harmony and complementary energies. While you'll face challenges 
(all relationships do), you have the elemental chemistry and character balance 
to navigate them successfully.

**Key to Success**: 
- A: Patience and appreciation for B's depth
- B: Courage to fully show up and express needs
- Both: Honor your differences as strengths

**Traditional Assessment**: 上上签 (Highest favorable match)

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## 📌 Final Thoughts

In BaZi compatibility, perfect matches don't exist - every pairing has strengths 
and challenges. What matters is:

1. Are the foundational energies harmonious? ✅ Yes (Water nourishes Wood)
2. Can challenges be navigated with awareness? ✅ Yes (no destructive patterns)
3. Do both individuals grow in the relationship? ✅ Yes (mutual evolution)
4. Is there genuine complementarity? ✅ Yes (different but matching)

Your charts suggest this relationship can be deeply fulfilling if both partners 
commit to understanding and honoring each other's essential nature.

Remember: 
> "好的关系不是没有矛盾，而是有智慧处理矛盾"
> "Good relationships don't lack conflict - they have wisdom to handle conflict"

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*Analysis completed with care and respect for both individuals. May your 
partnership flourish like a tree beside a flowing stream - deeply rooted, 
constantly nourished, ever-growing.* 🌳💧

