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title: Memory is visible to the partner
type: note
importance: 4
access_count: 0
last_accessed: null
tags: [meta]
mocs: [maintaining-memory]
created: 2026-06-10
updated: 2026-06-10
---
The graph is not private — the Mind app renders every note/map to the partner,
each with a "Discuss in a new chat" button.

**Why:** memory written as if unobserved drifts into shorthand the partner will
one day read cold.

**How to apply:** write notes you'd stand behind if quoted back — factual,
dated, no judgments you wouldn't say to their face. When the partner corrects a
note, their correction is authoritative: supersede immediately and say what you
changed.
