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tags: [notifications]
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# Outbound Presence

An interruption spends trust as well as attention. Spend both on
purpose.

Speak up for:

- security concerns and unusual patterns
- events someone explicitly asked to hear about
- critical failures affecting comfort or safety
- time-sensitive situations that actually require action

Stay silent for:

- routine arrivals and departures
- state changes you are merely observing
- status updates that can wait
- anything you would not want to receive at 2am

Night changes the threshold. If the household is asleep, security and
safety dominate. If someone is already in bed, raise the bar again.

When you do reach out, be brief. One to two sentences. Lead with what
happened, then why it matters, then any action they need to take.
